017: Chris Dorris & Emotional Mastery

May 19, 2016 By Arminda

Chris Dorris & Emotional Mastery

The All Arminda Show

Some of you may already be familiar with Chris Dorris. Not long ago I offered my readers access to his powerful audio program on commitment. If you missed that opportunity, it’s not too late. Just send me an email <coach@armindalindsay.com> and I’ll be happy to send you the link. It’s definitely worth the listen.

For those of you not familiar with him, Chris is essentially the psychological equivalent to a physical trainer and has been immersed in the world of pushing people past their perceived limits since 1994 in the capacity of advisor, consultant and Mental Toughness Trainer and Personal Transformation Coach to elite athletes, executives, entrepreneurs and individuals worldwide. He conducts workshops and seminars on Mental Conditioning, Leadership, and Peak Performance.

“Your life unfolds according to the way that you think.” — Buddha

What if you had a class that teaches you how to think and to strengthen the quality of your thinking skills? To practice using your mind to positively improve your world?

Was Freud wrong with his stimulus/response theory?!

The good news is you can IMMEDIATELY change your thoughts with CHOICE, and with practice we can alter our perceptions of reality. Suffering is merely the result of judging your sadness.

Your choice is to either experience the world problematically or opportunistically.

Options/interpretations of reality allow you to have, do and be what you want.

Chris’ Recommended Daily Practice

Catch Your Negative Thoughts
Own Your Thoughts
Replace Your Interpretations With an Upgrade

Becoming aware of the invisible (inside) stuff is unconscious learning!

“If something is troubling you, it’s not the thing itself, but your estimate of it, which you can revoke at any time.” — Marcus Aurelius

Chris makes it very clear: He is not selling happy thoughts; he’s selling options — you have a choice.

You cannot create excellence and mastery in a sustainable way if you choose a low grade interpretation of reality. — Chris Dorris

“Create the state; don’t wait.” — Chris Dorris

Become the person who doesn’t have complaining be a thing that goes on in your life. Start stopping complaining.

Here’s the Louis Schwartzberg video on GRATITUDE:

You always have access to gratitude. The only thing that goes away is your ability to remember you always have access!

Maintain a gratitude journal.

We chat about our friend Andrew McKee and his amazing book titled Change Your Game, Change Your Life.

Love this interview? Please share it.

Loving you,
arminda

016: Gary Mahler & A Woman’s Sovereignty

March 3, 2016 By Arminda

Gary Mahler & A Woman’s Sovereignty

The All Arminda Show

Is it unusual that I’m bringing in a man to talk about women? Not this man, methinks 🙂

What can you look forward to learning?

The woman who knows her power and isn’t afraid of being and showing herself to the world — the world changes because of her

That value, sovereignty, inheritance resides within each of us — and only our stories get in the way

Unless and until I love and value myself, will I be the sovereign of my life and when I step into that value I will bless everyone around me because I don’t need them to be love because I already am love

Loving ourselves is such a deeply powerful experience and you’re the only one who can do it

How to Increase Your Power

Notice what you do and who you be
Choose different
Take actionable steps to live the life you imagine
Choose you

Future Vision Exercise

List all the things you’re grateful for (read daily)
Write personal “I am” statement (read daily)
Live it

Choosing YOU

This is who I say I am, now I only have to choose it
Know your value
Create your sovereignty
Be around men who appreciate everything you bring
Be who you need to be and you’ll attract the right sort of men

Gary references both Steve Hardison & Steve Chandler, remarkable men who have impacted countless lives with their love and service.

Gary’s Bio

Besides women’s surf retreats, we create bespoke events for team building, leadership work, and executive groups: 3 day events in Malibu & 5 day events in Hawaii.

Gary works with highly-driven people to do that thing they want with all their heart, that thing they might not know how to describe yet. That thing that scares the hell out of them.

He challenges how his clients see themselves, think about themselves and believe in themselves. Gary firmly believes and lives the principle: when you change the way you think about yourself and you change the way you behave, your life WILL transform. He will never, ever let you forget what you tell him is important to you. When you are ready, he’ll be your Life’s Purpose Operations Manager, building your dreams together.

015: Marylou Falstreau on Loving Yourself

February 23, 2016 By Arminda

Marylou Falstreau Interview on Loving Yourself

The All Arminda Show

Marylou and I met on Twitter and I’m so incredibly delighted I reached out to her and even more delighted that she agreed to speak with me! May your experience of her work be similar to my “heart response” when I saw her art.

During this episode, Marylou and I talk about the significant work she’s doing impacting women’s lives through the visual medium of her art and why she started the Women and the Hourglass series of paintings that resonate so powerfully with women.

Each message, each woman, is pointing her finger at me and saying, ‘Wake up, Marylou! Make a different choice! Make a different decision!’

Addiction has been part of Marylou’s family story and her personal journey and learning about addiction led us into a deeper discussion around what it means to love ourselves and what practices we can implement to remove the foreign concept of love into a practical application and a regular practice for ourselves.

Marylou is most interested in living a life of truth telling, allowing others to tell their stories, their heartaches, to talk about getting better, learning more, waking up and being in conversation about that from an authentic point of view.

Marylou’s Excellent Advice

Be real.
Be honest.
Tell the truth.
Love ourselves so we can love others.

Be sure and look at Marylou’s gorgeous artwork on her website.

014: Melissa Ford on Service Interview

January 8, 2016 By Arminda

Melissa Ford on Service Interview

The All Arminda Virtual Show

Melissa Ford is remarkable. No, seriously. She’s one of the most amazing women I know, and I know a lot of amazing women. It was such an honor to talk with her about service and to gain clarity around this widely misunderstood behavior and quality.

On the (rather early) morning of our scheduled conversation, the first thing Melissa said to me was

I would only get up this early for Arminda or Santa Claus.

And that is a high praise I’m taking to the bank!

My recommendation is that you listen more than once and really let sink in these refined nuances of what service really means and allow yourself time to identify areas in your world (professional and personal) where you can make some adjustments.

What You Will Discover In This Episode

Widely misunderstood definition of service = means giving and giving and giving with expectation of nothing in return
Lots of expectations built into that model & it drains your energy, makes you small and your business doesn’t grow
This definition doesn’t work, especially when I need clients and money
Operating under this definition creates resentment, manipulation and strategies to get something back
True Definition of Service = Giving/helping/loving fearlessly without attachment to an outcome
Money is part of service.
Can’t serve unless people are willing to pay for your product or service
Nobody values anything if it’s free
Must include yourself in the equation of service
Service and love mean letting go of your ego = that’s true power
Love for a living because love does pay the mortgage
Love expresses itself in many ways; there is not just one version of love

Melissa Ford Bio

Melissa Ford, Business Coach, JD, PCI Certified Coach

As a coach, transformational speaker, entrepreneur and lawyer, Melissa brings deep insights, laser focus and diverse, rich experiences to her clients. For over 20 years she has been empowering people (entrepreneurs, small business owners, executives, parents, individuals) to create positive, permanent change in their lives, enabling her clients to do more and to have more.

You can find Melissa on her website and on Facebook.

013: Monica Day Interview

December 14, 2015 By Arminda

Monica Day Interview

The All Arminda Virtual Show

I first met Monica in downtown London on a (purportedly rare) sunny summer afternoon. She was so willing to speak with me, to answer my (what felt like a bazillion) questions, to have a meaningful conversation with me and about me, without her own agenda clouding the space between us.

We’ve stayed connected ever since and I’m honored to have her on the show. I am certain you, too, will connect with her frank and honest approach to every. single. topic. she discusses.

Today’s conversation is an invitation to you to consider the interconnectedness of creativity, expression and sensuality because Monica is the champion for their integration in every aspect of our lives.

Referenced in this Episode:

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

A Natural History of the Senses by Diane Ackerman

Sweat Your Prayers by Gabrielle Roth

Maps to Ecstasy by Gabrielle Roth

The Second Circle: How to Use Positive Energy for Success in Every Situation by Patsy Rodenburg

Whenever one person resolves one issue, all of humanity moves forward.

— Ron Hulnick, PhD

Monica’s Bio:

Monica Day is a writer, artist, creator, producer, performer, coach, entrepreneur and instigator, with a deep commitment to an ever-unfolding personal journey. She brings a unique combination of training in creativity, sensuality, diversity, and business to her work.

She is the founder of The Sensual Life, the producer and creator of The Power of One program, is an Integrative Coach to individuals, executives, and groups, and runs Ducky Life Tea with her two daughters. She has developed a unique approach to coaching that focuses on integrating the scattered self into the most powerful, purest, and fully-expressed self. She coaches a diverse range of individuals from business leaders to social change activists and everything in between.

Her innovative individual and group programs cover topics from sensuality to creativity to business to larger social issues of race and oppression (often in the same session). By forging powerful links between the private self to the public self, clients eventually realize an unprecedented feeling of wholeness that is life-changing. Her coaching is based on the premise that the more connected we are to every part of ourselves, the more connected we can be with one another, and the bigger impact we can have during our time here on the planet.

Loving you,
arminda

012: Traditions

December 4, 2015 By Arminda

Traditions

The All Arminda Virtual Show, episode 12

Spoiler Alert: Arminda reveals what she does not eat and how that informs what she does eat for traditional holiday feasts.

Note: The spoiler alert mentioned above has little to do with the intention of this episode, which is really asking yourself the following questions:

Are you committed to the tradition of your traditions?

How can you reinvent the way (and why) you do what you do every day?

Are you stuck in a traditional way of living your life that might be fun to shake up to see what happens?

Remove the (made up) meaning from just one of your traditions and tell me what you see!

Loving you,
arminda

Happy Birthday, Steve Chandler

November 27, 2015 By Arminda

To say that Steve Chandler being part of my life as my coach and mentor has changed my life is not said lightly.

Andy Fry of the Be Happiness Project eloquently shares the learning available to each of us on this exciting journey of being human:

The way I think of this transfer of wisdom and love working is like an abundant waterfall as it passes down from person to person. It doesn’t stop there either because it’s recycled from great lakes and rivers of learning and experience back to the source in a beautiful unbroken cycle, like the rain and water that sustains us!

That abundant waterfall of wisdom and love and service is Steve Chandler personified. And I relish every single opportunity that is mine to drench myself in his coaching and in his example and in his books.

For Steve’s birthday I wanted to tell him “Happy Birthday,” of course, but I also wanted to express in a small way that his impact on my life has had — and continues to have — a ripple effect that we won’t likely ever be able to measure.

In creating this birthday video for him, I was able to continue impacting lives as I discussed with each of the participants more about Steve and his positive influence on my life.

I don’t share all of this to suggest that others haven’t also influenced and impacted me. I do want to acknowledge that along the journey there are standout individuals whose paths cross ours at just the right time, for just the right reasons, and with such a force that the direction of our sails is altered from that moment forward.

Steve is such a force in my life.

With gratitude,

011: Kamin Samuel Interview

November 21, 2015 By Arminda

Kamin Samuel Interview

The All Arminda Virtual Show

I love Kamin Samuel. Really. She’s remarkable. This was my second opportunity to interview her about money and money fears and our relationship with money. I encourage you to listen to our first conversation, recorded with the astonishing Elatia Abate. (I’m not at all biased when it comes to my friends, as you can tell.)

During this discussion, Kamin and I spend a lot of time discussing the power of language and the words we speak and what that has to do with money.

We also get to talk about wealth and abundance and what those two words’ meanings include and the energy of money.

Kamin’s Recommended System for Increasing Wealth:

Read “The Wealth Exercise” from The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy.
Each morning do “The Wealth Exercise” for at least 30 seconds, ideally a few minutes. Kamin only uses the word wealth. Ask yourself, “what would it feel like to have…”
Write down any inspirations or ideas that come forward, like to call or email someone, get your resume together, make an appointment of some kind
Take action. The goal is to take action that day and watch what magic can happen.
HAVE FUN and step into the flow of experiencing more wealth and success in your life. Enjoy!

I’m also excited to tell you Kamin and I have a couple of surprises up our sleeves coming to you soon. If you have additional questions for Kamin, please let me know!

Abundance is not something we acquire; it is something we tune into.

— Wayne Dyer

Links

Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy

Loving you,
arminda

010: Christina Berkley Interview

November 20, 2015 By Arminda

Christina Berkley Interview

The All Arminda Virtual Show

Christina Berkley embodies power in the most loving context and it was an absolute honor interviewing her.

I know you’ll love this candid discussion around power and how we define it, relate to it, use it and shy away from it.

If you’re curious at all about this sometimes nebulous force, enjoy all that Christina has to say and I feel certain you’ll come away with a different perspective and some tools you can use right now to shift your own sense of power within.

If you’re interested in connecting with Christina, she’s a coach and speaker living in New York City. Her clients are extraordinary beings and leaders in their lives. Whether she’s working with moms, politicians, celebrities, musicians, activists, entrepreneurs, coaches etc., she is madly interested in each person’s unique expression and capacity to change themselves and the world.

The search and evolution of Power has been central to her life. Although she’s trained with some of the best coaches and teachers alive today, her greatest learnings have come from living on the edges, both on purpose and not. Her mission is to pass on that wisdom and get people connected to their own infinite reserves of power, tremendous capacity for love, and to help them wildly succeed in their businesses, and prosper along the way.

Loving you,
arminda

009: Andrew McKee Interview

November 20, 2015 By Arminda

Andrew McKee Interview

The All Arminda Virtual Show

Meet my dear friend Andrew.

Change Your Game, Change Your Life is his brand new book. And if you listen to this episode, you will quickly learn you don’t need to know anything about the game of golf to appreciate the wisdom in Andrew’s concept.

Andrew and I talk about so much more than golf.

Our conversation is about connecting.

Here’s Andrew’s concept broken down in three simple steps, but listen to get all the juicy understanding:

Identify your “game”
Identify your barriers
Bring love & connect

I’ve heard Andrew sing. Don’t miss this opportunity. Here’s a recording of him performing Stars from Les Miserables. The song he performed when I first met him was Anthem from the musical, Chess. As soon as I get access to a recording I’ll share it here.

GI Joe reference? Yes, that, too.

Loving you,
arminda