Arminda Lindsay

Being On Purpose

Frozen Assets

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Earlier today as I was walking Eli we came upon what appeared to be a frozen fountain. Upon closer inspection I realized while the fountain’s main water had, indeed, frozen, there was still quite a bit of water still freely flowing, uninhibited by the sub-zero temperatures to which its fellow drops had succumbed.

Earlier this week I conducted multiple coaching sessions with clients who each arrived to our respective conversation feeling stuck and unable to move past what seemed like insurmountable barriers. Here’s a sampling of four of those barriers:

1. Frustration with a business partner whose actions had offended a key vendor
2. A marketing plan that didn’t seem to be producing the desired results
3. Overwhelm from starting a new business and implementing multiple strategies simultaneously
4. Personal issues that were “leaking” into the professional space

Upon closer inspection, some targeted questioning from me, and a safe space in which to review their assets, my clients were each able to see avenues to continue moving forward, uninhibited by the surrounding events previously blocking their path.

When we had completed our time together every single one of those “stuck” individuals experienced an overflow of joy that accompanied their awareness that sometimes, or perhaps especially, when feeling stuck it might do to remember Winnie the Pooh‘s sage advice:

Sometimes, if you stand on the bottom rail of a bridge and lean over to watch the river slipping slowly away beneath you, you will suddenly know everything there is to be known.”

Remember that being stuck is optional and if you need some assistance just let me know what’s in your way; I’m happy to stand on the bottom rail with you.

Loving you,
arminda

Beware of Dog

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In ancient Pompeii homeowners used large intricate tiles in their entryway floor to ward off potential intruders; BEWARE OF DOG signs have been around for ages, it seems. Whether the dog is real is irrelevant; it’s the thought there might be a dog that triggers a fear and an inability to move ahead that the BEWARE OF DOG signs illicit, rendering the signs so effective, thus preventing any perceived negative advances.

I often work with clients who are deeply frustrated with themselves because they’re not achieving their goals and feel anger, anxiety and hold themselves in severe self judgment at how seemingly long it’s taking them to gain any traction toward their next big thing, or each time they attempt a step toward their goal they experience extreme resistance around the very thing they say they want to do.

If this is you, then in my experience you’re completely normal.

Most likely you’ve got a “tile” of thought warning you against proceeding, so every time you come up close to progress you hit internal resistance and hold yourself back.

What’s most interesting is the buried, or competing, thought: you aren’t consciously aware of its existence. Look underneath what you’re not accomplishing to discover your block.

What’s the worst thing that could happen if you succeed, if you do the thing you’re NOT doing?

Too often we have a great plan and a vision and we stay out in that expansive space and get overwhelmed at all that has to happen to realize the vision, so we do nothing. It’s great to have a plan and a vision, but then we must pull it all back to center and see what the one next thing is and do that, rather than thinking the big plan and vision should be complete at conception and then we judge ourselves for not having done it and we create distance from the very thing we think we’re supposed to be doing and creating.

Good grief. That’s exhausting.

My assumption is the judgment and misidentification of yourself is your “tile.”

Who would you be without all those thoughts, without that “tile”?

When you expose the tile, you also expose the thought’s irrelevance. Remember it’s only the thought there might be a dog that prevents an intruder from breaking in. The same is true for you. It’s only the made up thoughts you’re having that are preventing you from moving forward.

Identify and expose your internal competition. Then step out of your own way, stop making up stuff and move forward — one step at a time.

There is no dog.

Successful Mermaid

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Successful Mermaid

I get it. I really do. You’re upset because you’re not where you thought you “should” be by now.

Mermaid
Homeowner
Fireman
Mother
Floor Supervisor
Chairman of the Board
College Graduate
CEO

Success, as you’ve been defining it, still isn’t yours and you’re upset because other people seem to have “it,” while you clearly still do not.

And while it’s easy to look around us and see what we lack that others have in spades, it’s never about that.

Scott Adams delineates the haves and the have nots:

“If you want success, figure out the price, then pay it. It sounds trivial and obvious, but if you unpack the idea it has extraordinary power. I know a lot of people who wish they were rich or famous or otherwise fabulous. They wish they had yachts and servants and castles and they wish they could travel the world in their own private jets. But these are mere wishes. Few of these wishful people have decided to have any of the things they wish for. It’s a key difference, for once you decide, you take action. Wishing starts in the mind and generally stays there.
When you decide to be successful in a big way, it means you acknowledge the price and you’re willing to pay it.”

The dividing line, then, is merely a decision.
What will you decide to decide?

The Hustle

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If you’re not hustling you’re not winning. Is that true? What is hustling, anyway? I want to suggest that what works (systems, programs, implementations, processes) for someone else may or may not work for you, but what will always work is for you to follow your commitment. If you’re committed, you’re “all in,” and when you’re “all in,” follow THAT commitment and you’ll know exactly what to do. That’s where the magic lies — inside of you.

What’s Your Guarantee?

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What's Your Guarantee?Guarantees mean something:

  • lowest price guarantee
  • quality guarantee
  • money back guarantee
  • address you by name or it’s free guarantee
  • satisfaction guarantee
  • guaranteed to work
  • lifetime guarantee
  • lasts longer guarantee
  • guaranteed approval
  • customer service guarantee

Until they don’t.

A handshake and a spoken agreement used to guarantee your word.

Guarantee your word and keep your agreements.

That’s a guaranteed system for success.

I give you my word.

007: Serving or Pleasing?

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Serving or Pleasing?

The All Arminda Virtual Show, episode 7

What would be the most useful way for you to show up in your relationships?

If your answer is about making the other person happy, you’re only going to be unhappy.

The only person who can make YOU happy, is YOU.

Happiness comes from the inside out and we can manufacture that from within and success follows. Every single time.

Are you out to get or out to give?

Is there a belief that needs to be dissolved in the way you’re showing up in your own life?

Loving you,
arminda

006: Serving in Business

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Serving in Business

The All Arminda Virtual Show, episode 6

The key to success is SERVICE and not about focusing on a number, or a dollar amount, or on client acquisition or about closing more deals.

Jonathan Keyser wrote the book Disruptive and the quote I shared is this:

When you pour your energies and resources and relationship into helping all the people you touch in as many ways as you can and then getting up the next day and doing it all over again, that is service. And that is the mindset that leads those who follow to extraordinary success and wealth beyond their wildest dreams.

What are your thoughts about service? Agree or disagree with Jonathan?

Loving you,
arminda

Course Corrections

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When you’ve set your goal and you think you’re on target to achieve it and something disrupts you along your path — what do you do? Many of us get upset, frustrated and angry at ourselves, we question our ability to get anything done the “right” way and oftentimes use the disruption as the sign for us to quit altogether.

Before you do any of those things, watch this video.

Failure

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What if there was a different option to pass/fail? Let’s EXPERIMENT with what we do every day instead of succumbing to the personal low of failing if something doesn’t turn out the way we want or expect.

I reference the Ladder of Consciousness during this video, so be sure and watch that other Ask Arminda if you’re unfamiliar with it!

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