Being On Purpose
Oftentimes our business relationships are so far removed from the way we maintain and nurture our personal relationships we forget what makes our personal relationships so meaningful: connection.
What would it look like to treat our professional relationships with the same level of attention and purpose as we do our personal relationships? How might that affect and impact the bottom line?
What if connection is code for service?
No one likes being told what to do. And many people have a propensity to do the very thing they’ve been told not to, just to prove that no one is the boss of them. If you’ve spent any time around children you’ll have experienced this firsthand.
Adults are no different. They might dislike being told what to do even more than do children. Yet how often do you tell others what they should and should not be doing? How often do you believe your opinion and your way of doing things is the only and/or best way? How often do you believe that you’re in charge? That you’re the boss? That because you said so, everyone around you should do exactly as you say?
Maybe you are the boss, the one paid to be in charge. Do that title and paycheck legitimize your demands and justify your expectations of how everyone around you should behave in response to you?
What if you played differently in your own sandbox? What if instead of dictating the rules, you share your vision and/or your need and ask for participation and gather agreement from the very people on whom your success is dependent.
You might be surprised to discover how many people now want to play with you because they feel you care about their opinions, feedback and buy-in.
Experiment. Play. Let go of your attachment to telling. Pretend you’re not a dictator. Build a bigger sandbox.
In one day we crossed this magnificent bridge six times.
And it was an amazing and different view every single time, six times.
Different times of the day, different traffic patterns, different phases of the sun and moon, different conversations, different passengers, different purposes for the crossings.
Bridges are designed, engineered and built for crossing and for bearing immense amounts of weight.
We design, engineer and build bridges in our lives — personally, professionally and internally.
There is sometimes a cavalier tossing about of the burning of these bridges of our own construction, as if their destruction is of no consequence because a new and better bridge will appear on a different road to get us to the other side of another relationship.
Be wary of such thinking.
The only road you’re traveling that has need of said bridges is your own.
One road. One traveler. You.
Remember: Bridges are designed, engineered and built for crossing and for bearing immense amounts of weight.
Recognize your road is in need of many bridges, personally, professionally and internally. It is these very bridges, when we are willing to test them and to put the weight on them that is sometimes required in the crossing, that connects us to what’s next, who’s next, and what work is available to us for our own learning and growth.
Burning bridges is an avoidance tactic that will never allow you to progress personally, professionally or internally.
You must be willing to put your full weight on the bridge and cross — sometimes as many as six times in one day.
Is it unusual that I’m bringing in a man to talk about women? Not this man, methinks 🙂
What can you look forward to learning?
The woman who knows her power and isn’t afraid of being and showing herself to the world — the world changes because of her
That value, sovereignty, inheritance resides within each of us — and only our stories get in the way
Unless and until I love and value myself, will I be the sovereign of my life and when I step into that value I will bless everyone around me because I don’t need them to be love because I already am love
Loving ourselves is such a deeply powerful experience and you’re the only one who can do it
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Gary references both Steve Hardison & Steve Chandler, remarkable men who have impacted countless lives with their love and service.
Gary’s Bio
Besides women’s surf retreats, we create bespoke events for team building, leadership work, and executive groups: 3 day events in Malibu & 5 day events in Hawaii.
Gary works with highly-driven people to do that thing they want with all their heart, that thing they might not know how to describe yet. That thing that scares the hell out of them.
He challenges how his clients see themselves, think about themselves and believe in themselves. Gary firmly believes and lives the principle: when you change the way you think about yourself and you change the way you behave, your life WILL transform. He will never, ever let you forget what you tell him is important to you. When you are ready, he’ll be your Life’s Purpose Operations Manager, building your dreams together.
What would be the most useful way for you to show up in your relationships?
If your answer is about making the other person happy, you’re only going to be unhappy.
The only person who can make YOU happy, is YOU.
Happiness comes from the inside out and we can manufacture that from within and success follows. Every single time.
Are you out to get or out to give?
Is there a belief that needs to be dissolved in the way you’re showing up in your own life?
Loving you,
arminda
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