Arminda Lindsay

Being On Purpose

The New Sexy: “I Am Enough”

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While I love and enjoy all of my guests, this conversation, in particular, holds significant personal meaning. Join me and Shelley Dunford-Hardy as we take the subject of power into the bedroom and what it means for a woman to be in her power in arguably the most intimate spaces of her Self: physically, emotionally and psychologically.

Shelley’s Favorite Tools

  • Kristin Neff and her significant work around self-compassion. Please find Dr. Neff’s website here.
  • Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and a link for that method can be found here.
  • Ocean Breathing: Breathe in the nose for four counts and out the mouth for three counts, repeat.
  • Exploration exercise: Checking in with what you want/enjoy and do not want/enjoy.  Each person takes a turn being a giver and a receiver. The basic words used are, Yes/Please (I like and want to keep doing this) / Maybe (I don’t like this now, but I may be open to it in the future) / No, Thank You (I do not like this and do not want to do it).

Shelley Dunford-Hardy Bio

A licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) for over twelve years, Shelley has a bachelor’s degree in Education, and masters’ degrees in both Clinical Psychology and Spiritual Psychology. She has a passion for helping individuals and couples learn, heal, grow and thrive through challenging experiences in their lives. Shelley’s specialty trainings include Emotion Focus Therapy (EFT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). She has worked several years with individuals, and their spouses healing from pornography and sex addiction. Shelley loves traveling, painting, hiking and spending time with her family. She has been married for thirty-two years and has four children. You can find her at her website.

Cirese LaBerge: The Power of Choices

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Wow. I loved this conversation.

Today’s guest is Cirese LaBerge, who served 20+ years in the California prison system before being released on parole on March 3, 2015.

During today’s episode, Cirese and I talk about the power of our choices: how we always have a choice, even if we may not prefer or like the consequences.

I am so inspired by the question Cirese regularly asks herself because she feels it is her duty to live in her loving:

Would I rather be loving or would I rather be right?

What if we each started asking that same question to ourselves? What might be different? What outcomes might you experience? How might you experience yourself differently?

Thank you, Cirese, for living in your loving and for showing me how beautiful that life is.

Cirese LaBerge Bio

After serving over 20 years in prison starting at age 18, Cirese LaBerge has become an example of how to live in healing. She works in conjunction with the Anti-Recidivism Coalition, #Cut50 and the Freedom to Choose Project, among others, bringing a connection of humanity to people across the state of California, going into the prisons she lived in to help inspire and provide hope for people currently serving a life sentence, speaking to students, from junior high to college, about the power of choices, and inspiring many to work alongside her in helping to change a broken system of “justice.”

Sherry Welsh: The Trust Model

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I got so much out of my conversation with Sherry Welsh, author of Slowing Down: Unexpected Ways to Thrive as a Female Leader, and leadership coach.

Discussing Sherry’s Trust Model illuminated for me a powerful trifecta between integrity, transparency and communication, and seeing more clearly how loss of personal power is directly linked to lack of trust. Here are links to two additional conversations Sherry’s recorded to further illustrate How to Make the Trust Model Work for You and How to Build Trust in Your Relationships.

We referenced Byron Katie’s Judge Your Neighbor worksheets we both love using and you can access them for free, as well!

Thank you, Sherry, for the reminder that I am enough right now and I have everything I need to be powerful today.

Sherry Welsh Bio

Sherry started out with an education in Engineering. Although she didn’t quite know what to do with it, it gave her the technical background to begin a 25 year career in manufacturing. With the introductory job in Southampton, PA, the experience she gained in that first year landed her on the path of a 20-year career with Robert Bosch, GmbH. She moved through plants, corporate offices in Germany and the U.S. and ultimately landed in Michigan where she lived for 20 years prior to landing back home in Charleston, SC. When she left Bosch, she was one of the few women who were in the executive ranks. She was lured away from Bosch to another automotive supplier to be the head of the Global Sales organization responsible for $3 Billion in Sales. Although the future seemed bright there, the great recession of 2008 came along and knocked her out of the game… temporarily. As a single mom, unemployed in Detroit, Michigan, in one of the greatest recessions of all time, the future seemed bleak. It was in that time, Sherry was able to slow down, set up a consulting practice, and use the skills she had developed over the years as a leader. In that year of consultant work, Sherry discovered her love for coaching and mentoring. Another company came along, a British Cosmetic packaging company that invited her into a 2-year stint as a Global Sales leader. Sherry worked with colleagues around the world again and loved the team she was developing and leading in Paris, Amsterdam, Brazil, New York and Chicago, to name a few locations. Working with customers like Chanel, Christian Dior, and LÓreal was a dream! But due to the nature of the location, every week she was on an airplane, at a different hotel, in a different city. Despite her love for travel, this way of life, disconnected from others, while being a single mom, was exhausting. That’s when the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) popped up on the radar! It was exactly what Sherry loved most about working with the multicultural teams she had around the world… inspiring them and coaching them to be their best! Although she no longer belongs to any one corporation, as an independent professional coach, Sherry now works with clients around the world to help them discover and bring into all aspects of their life their innate leadership abilities. She continues to travel and co-parent her incredible son… but more relaxed, with more humor, and an open mind full of possibility.

Enjoy this episode of The All Arminda Show!

016: Gary Mahler & A Woman’s Sovereignty

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Gary Mahler & A Woman’s Sovereignty

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Is it unusual that I’m bringing in a man to talk about women? Not this man, methinks 🙂

What can you look forward to learning?

The woman who knows her power and isn’t afraid of being and showing herself to the world — the world changes because of her

That value, sovereignty, inheritance resides within each of us — and only our stories get in the way

Unless and until I love and value myself, will I be the sovereign of my life and when I step into that value I will bless everyone around me because I don’t need them to be love because I already am love

Loving ourselves is such a deeply powerful experience and you’re the only one who can do it

How to Increase Your Power

  1. Notice what you do and who you be
  2. Choose different
  3. Take actionable steps to live the life you imagine
  4. Choose you

Future Vision Exercise

  1. List all the things you’re grateful for (read daily)
  2. Write personal “I am” statement (read daily)
  3. Live it

Choosing YOU

  1. This is who I say I am, now I only have to choose it
  2. Know your value
  3. Create your sovereignty
  4. Be around men who appreciate everything you bring
  5. Be who you need to be and you’ll attract the right sort of men

Gary references both Steve Hardison & Steve Chandler, remarkable men who have impacted countless lives with their love and service.

Gary’s Bio

Besides women’s surf retreats,  we create bespoke events for team building, leadership work, and executive groups: 3 day events in Malibu & 5 day events in Hawaii.

Gary works with highly-driven people to do that thing they want with all their heart, that thing they might not know how to describe yet. That thing that scares the hell out of them.

He challenges how his clients see themselves, think about themselves and believe in themselves.  Gary firmly believes and lives the principle: when you change the way you think about yourself and you change the way you behave, your life WILL transform. He will never, ever let you forget what you tell him is important to you. When you are ready, he’ll be your Life’s Purpose Operations Manager, building your dreams together.

014: Melissa Ford on Service Interview

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Melissa Ford Service Interview

Melissa Ford is remarkable. No, seriously. She’s one of the most amazing women I know, and I know a lot of amazing women. It was such an honor to talk with her about service and to gain clarity around this widely misunderstood behavior and quality.

On the (rather early) morning of our scheduled conversation, the first thing Melissa said to me was

I would only get up this early for Arminda or Santa Claus.

And that is a high praise I’m taking to the bank!

My recommendation is that you listen more than once and really let sink in these refined nuances of what service really means and allow yourself time to identify areas in your world (professional and personal) where you can make some adjustments.

What You Will Discover In This Episode

  • Widely misunderstood definition of service = means giving and giving and giving with expectation of nothing in return
  • Lots of expectations built into that model & it drains your energy, makes you small and your business doesn’t grow
  • This definition doesn’t work, especially when I need clients and money
  • Operating under this definition creates resentment, manipulation and strategies to get something back
  • True Definition of Service = Giving/helping/loving fearlessly without attachment to an outcome
  • Money is part of service.
  • Can’t serve unless people are willing to pay for your product or service
  • Nobody values anything if it’s free
  • Must include yourself in the equation of service
  • Service and love mean letting go of your ego = that’s true power
  • Love for a living because love does pay the mortgage
  • Love expresses itself in many ways; there is not just one version of love

Melissa Ford Bio

Melissa Ford, Business Coach, JD, PCI Certified Coach

As a coach, transformational speaker, entrepreneur and lawyer, Melissa brings deep insights, laser focus and diverse, rich experiences to her clients. For over 20 years she has been empowering people (entrepreneurs, small business owners, executives, parents, individuals) to create positive, permanent change in their lives, enabling her clients to do more and to have more.

You can find Melissa on her website and on Facebook.

010: Christina Berkley Interview

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Christina Berkley Interview

Christina Berkley embodies power in the most loving context  and it was an absolute honor interviewing her.

I know you’ll love this candid discussion around power and how we define it, relate to it, use it and shy away from it.

If you’re curious at all about this sometimes nebulous force, enjoy all that Christina has to say and I feel certain you’ll come away with a different perspective and some tools you can use right now to shift your own sense of power within.

If you’re interested in connecting with Christina, she’s a coach and speaker living in New York City. Her clients are extraordinary beings and leaders in their lives. Whether she’s working with moms, politicians, celebrities, musicians, activists, ​entrepreneurs, ​coaches etc., she is madly interested in each person’s unique expression and capacity to change themselves and the world.

The search and evolution of Power has been central to her life. Although she’s trained with some of the best coaches and teachers alive today, her greatest learnings have come from living on the edges, both on purpose and not. Her mission is to pass on that wisdom and get people connected to their own infinite reserves of power, tremendous capacity for love, ​and ​to help them wildly succeed ​in their businesses, ​and prosper along the way.

Loving you,
arminda

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