Arminda Lindsay

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011: Kamin Samuel Interview

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Kamin Samuel Interview

The All Arminda Virtual Show

Kamin Samuel Interview

I love Kamin Samuel. Really. She’s remarkable. This was my second opportunity to interview her about money and money fears and our relationship with money. I encourage you to listen to our first conversation, recorded with the astonishing Elatia Abate. (I’m not at all biased when it comes to my friends, as you can tell.)

During this discussion, Kamin and I spend a lot of time discussing the power of language and the words we speak and what that has to do with money.

We also get to talk about wealth and abundance and what those two words’ meanings include and the energy of money.

Kamin’s Recommended System for Increasing Wealth:

  1. Read “The Wealth Exercise” from The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy.
  2. Each morning do “The Wealth Exercise” for at least 30 seconds, ideally a few minutes. Kamin only uses the word wealth. Ask yourself, “what would it feel like to have…”
  3. Write down any inspirations or ideas that come forward, like to call or email someone, get your resume together, make an appointment of some kind
  4. Take action. The goal is to take action that day and watch what magic can happen.
  5. HAVE FUN and step into the flow of experiencing more wealth and success in your life. Enjoy!

I’m also excited to tell you Kamin and I have a couple of surprises up our sleeves coming to you soon. If you have additional questions for Kamin, please let me know!

Abundance is not something we acquire; it is something we tune into.

— Wayne Dyer

Links

Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy

Loving you,
arminda

Managing Up

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Managing Up

You’re given a project and assigned a deadline for its completion. You’re really excited about the assignment and already have a clear vision of the steps you’re going to take to its execution. However, you also experience an immediate sense of overwhelm because in order to really do it the right way, this assignment will take you days longer than you’ve been given.

Many of us experience fear and high stress around these (or similar) situations.

We are fearful of saying anything to our boss because they might think:

  • I’m incompetent
  • I lack initiative
  • I can’t handle the work load in this position

And we experience high volumes of stress in an effort to hide all of the above fears and push ourselves beyond our own capacity to deliver the quality we want to give and the quality expected of us.

Oftentimes, this results in poor quality output and/or other projects not being managed effectively.

What do you do?

Manage up.

This is a perfect opportunity to have a conversation with your supervisor to renegotiate the assignment and to take full ownership of its outcome and in so doing, you also drop the fear and the stress.

The objective of this conversation is not to come from a defensive, angry or frightened position. When you communicate your genuine interest in delivering exactly what’s been tasked, you can suggest you have two choices:

1. On-time delivery OR
2. Quality delivery

Which is preferred?

From that place of honest and sincere desire to serve, you can engage, connect, and create solutions that involve you in the equation.

It’s easy to slip into an internal dialogue that suggests you’re always on the losing side of projects, assignments and workload. And when that voice in your head gets louder, the more unhappy you become with your work environment.

Shift the balance and quiet the voice by speaking up and speaking out. Chances are, whoever’s handing out assignments isn’t doing so with intent to stress or incite fear in you. They want you to succeed, and you communicating the best way for you to achieve success is information they will welcome.

The alternative is to say nothing at all, continue being fearful of upper management, allow stress to wreak its havoc on you and harbor resentment about how unfair your job is.

Your call.

*Note that this method of renegotiation is just as applicable and effective in our personal relationships as it is in our professional ones.

Be sure and watch this video for some additional insight on the topic!

Drawing Skills

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Isn’t the knowing of a child the most beautiful thing you ever experienced?

I love remembering my own sense of knowing during those years when I knew what I knew. And what I didn’t know, I imagined until it felt more real than what I knew.

Do you remember knowing you were amazing? At drawing, perhaps? Or riding horses. Or reading out loud with just the right inflections. Or hopping on one foot longer than anyone else. Or climbing trees. Or tap dancing. Or writing stories. Or molding clay. Or blocking all the goals. Or organizing clubs. Or giving recitations. Or calming a fussy child. Or performing tricks on your bike. Or knowing the alphabet backwards.

Do you remember when life got too serious for childhood games and make-believe?

What if tomorrow when you wake up you could be anything you want?

What if you could draw “a picture of a house that was so good, [you] had to hide it so nobody would steal it”?

What if that picture of that house was the remembering of amazing:

  • letting go of a fear that’s been holding you captive
  • having a conversation you’ve been avoiding
  • getting back to something you used to love but somewhere along the way forgot to keep loving it
  • planting the seed of a new possibility
  • exploring an option that didn’t exist today
  • sharing a talent
  • smiling from your inside out
  • not caring what anyone else thinks
  • going on an impromptu adventure
  • staying out late to star gaze
  • writing a poem
  • calling a friend
  • speaking your truth

What if you play a game today and engage with your thoughts and your to-do list as if you were a child again.

What are the “a lot of things” you can create when you come from that place of knowing you’re amazing?

Action Displaces Fear

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The theme of fear keeps showing up in my coaching conversations with clients — let’s not minimize it! Let’s stay in conversation.

What do you DO when you experience the emotion of fear? Let’s talk about the “Ladder of Consciousness” and being self-aware of our location on that ladder to improve our quality of life.

When Fear Feels Real

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Oftentimes our fears feel very real to us and simply dismissing the fear as made-up seems trite. How can you use your fears as a starting point to a greater you?

The magic lies in the experience of fear, itself. When we feel fear it’s our opportunity to slow ourselves down and explore the starting point for that emotion of fear and then reframe and move past the fear so we’re no longer in our own way.

 

Phantom Fears

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PhantomFearSaturday morning cartoons were the routine at my house. We happily jumped out of bed early to help ourselves to bowl after bowl of cold cereal while we sat for hours, eyes glued to the television, until Mom made us turn off the tv and go outside to play.

Scooby Doo, Where Are You! was a family favorite. For those of you unfamiliar with the show, allow me to give you the major plot outline of every single episode:

Four friends and a dog named Scooby Doo drive around in a van and solve mysteries that always turn out to be not so mysterious when they arrive at their big reveal in the concluding scene.

Thinking back on the many episodes I watched, there was a regularly-occurring scary creature: a phantom, who would especially terrify the gang. I vividly remember experiencing fright every single time at the sight of that phantom lurking in the dark recesses of the (usually) abandoned building the friends were investigating.

And every single time it turned out the phantom wasn’t a phantom at all because phantoms, as it turns out, aren’t real; they’re imagined. There was always a logical (and not at all mysterious) explanation for whatever phantom appeared to be lurking in the dark.

Our fears are just like those cartoon phantoms: entirely made up. Our phantoms can assume a wide variety of forms:

  • Fear over what another person thinks
    Fear of a conversation
    Fear of trying something new
    Fear of appearing different
    Fear of sharing an opinion
    Fear of failure
    Fear of success
    Fear of perceived risk
    Fear of a new computer system
    Fear of asking for what you want
    Fear of submitting a proposal
    Fear of following up
    Fear of being overlooked
    Fear of (insert your own)

Our mystery can be very un-mysterious because the mystery to be solved isn’t why your phantom is lurking, but whether you imagined it in the first place.

What if instead of further convincing yourself the phantom fear is real, poses a real threat and prevents you from going into your dark and scary place, you flip on the light and ask yourself the following questions:

1. Do I absolutely know the phantom is real?
2. How do I feel when I believe the phantom is real?
3. Who would I be without that phantom in my life?

Then be number three.

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