Being On Purpose
When we are rigidly attached to an outcome we set ourselves up for failure. Events are just neutral; they have meaning only when we assign meaning to the event. We can choose responses, rather than being attached to an expectation of others’ behavior or an event.
Planes, Trains & Automobiles is the classic movie reference I make in this episode!
Steve Chandler said,
It’s not what a goal IS that matters; it’s what a goal DOES. So when you think of this goal, what does it do for you? Your goals are creations; you create goals to serve yourself. The goal is supposed to serve you.
WHAT?!!!!
Back up. Rewind. Reread.
No wonder we get discouraged and don’t feel excited about the novel we committed to write, or the gym membership we paid to use, or the sales number we pulled out of a hat, or the company projection we’re anticipating, or the global domination we intend to execute.
When you think you’re not motivated to act on that goal it has little to nothing to do with you; it’s the goal, itself. Chances are you set the goal because of what it represents and not for what it does.
I’m all about vision and creating amazing things AND I know I can’t jump farther than I can jump.
Let me put it another way: If I’m not walking around excited about what I’m creating and in the act of DOING it then I know my goals are clearly under the IS column and not the DOES column.
Right now is a perfect time to review your goals. Are they serving you, or is it just a goal for the sake of being a goal?
Are you looking for ways to motivate yourself toward actively accomplishing your goal?
Do you feel “less than” or embarrassed because you’re not working toward your goal?
Does looking at or thinking about your goal incite fear, frustration, overwhelm or excuses?
Create a smaller goal that DOES for you what a self-help book never will: keeps you in action in your own life.
That, my friend, is serving you.
#thatwaseasy
Welcome to the All Arminda Virtual Show, first episode EVER!
During this episode, Arminda shares a passage from Brenda Ueland’s notable book, If You Want to Write, in which Brenda Ueland and Leo Tolstoy have a few things to say about how drinking, smoking, coffee and drugs dull creativity!
Listen to hear what Leo Tolstoy had to say about his own use of alcohol and cigarettes in his writing process and how that changed over time for him in his own evolution as an author.
What does any of this have to do with you and YOUR creativity? Maybe a lot.
loving you,
arminda
Do you ever hear that voice inside your head challenging your worth, your value, your credentials to proceed in the direction you’re heading? Here’s a short video with a response you can use every single time that voice comes calling.