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Headlights 101

November 9, 2015 By Arminda

Headlights 101

My daughter recently got her own car and just before sending her off on her inaugural drive, we quickly ran through the obvious how-to checklist:

  • windshield wipers
  • defrost front AND back windows
  • headlights

Several weeks and many nights later, she mentioned to me that the headlights were so dim she couldn’t see the road without using her bright lights. She was scared to drive in the dark until the lights were fixed.

Together one night we sat in her car and she turned on the ignition, turned to me and gesturing through the front windshield said, “See?!”

“I see you haven’t turned on the headlights yet,” I replied.

“They’re on right now!” she insisted.

“Turn the dial again and see what happens,” I suggested.

Sure enough, with one additional turn of the dial the headlights flared and she exclaimed, “But those are the bright lights!”

“No, those are your regular lights. The high beams require a little extra effort to activate,” I laughed, thinking about her sneaking around with only her parking lights for guidance while there were other cars on the road, and as soon as she was alone, she would turn on her regular lights.

How many of us metaphorically drive around with our dim parking lights, unsure of how to turn on our regular lights or nervous to use our light in front of others?

You don’t have to drastically change your life, quit what you’re doing, leave your relationship, start your own business or relocate your family. You don’t even need to dust off your list of long-ago abandoned resolutions.

Just turn up your light where you are right now and see if things appear brighter because you are now shining one dial brighter than before.

Filed Under: Blog, Weekly Wisdom, Writing Tagged With: choices, happiness, headlights, inner light, light, live your life, share your light

Stained-Glass Windows

March 31, 2014 By Arminda Leave a Comment

Stained-Glass

My friends Anna and Alan owned a stained-glass window, which hung suspended on the inside of their large front room picture window, which window conveniently faced the street. If my timing was right I could walk past their place just as the late afternoon rays of sun brushed those colored panes and pause for a moment to take in all that charming.

One afternoon I happened to be inside their front room when the afternoon sunshine stretched its long golden fingers all the way through the glass to where I was standing, suddenly surrounded by thousands of dancing prisms. The entire living room was bathed in miniature rainbows and I’m pretty sure I heard tiny bells tinkling their joy (that tinkling sound was probably just in my head).

Driving down the street one evening I casually glanced to my left as my car slipped past Anna and Alan’s place and unprepared for what I saw, my heart caught in my throat! My right foot slowly pressed the brake and checking to be sure no one was behind me, I carefully backed up, put the car in park and turned off my headlights to absorb every rich detail of that stained-glass window, now lit from a lamp within. I savored the moment in silent reflection before quietly resuming my drive down the road.

The first time I read the following quote by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross it resonated within me so deeply as truth and I was immediately transported back to Anna and Alan’s window on 7th South.

Read slowly:

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.

This describes you. This describes me.

Our world is full of remarkable people, each of us beautiful and unique, sparkling and shining and sharing our individual light with those around us.

When someone is drawn to you it is your inner light they see and seek, not your outward appearance.

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Beauty is the byproduct of creating your life in such a way that allows thought to flow through you, emotions to have credence only when it truly matters, remembering that no feeling is final, and that you are wired for happiness. Your light will only increase in brightness and will cause others who see it to catch their breath, pause and back up so they can be in your presence because you are that beautiful from the inside out.
Choose you. Choose happy.

Filed Under: Blog, Coaching, Happiness, Writing Tagged With: Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, inner beauty, inner light, remarkable people, self worth, stained-glass windows

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