Arminda Lindsay

Being On Purpose

005: If You Really Wanted To, You Would

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If You Really Wanted To, You Would

The All Arminda Virtual Show, episode 5

Arminda bought a magnet that says: IF YOU REALLY WANTED TO YOU WOULD

It’s never about not knowing how to do something, or needing to think about it, or saying you want to talk about it with someone else.

This is an action-filled episode with a BONUS dramatic pause included!

Don’t get caught up in the “herd mentality” of behavior.

You have all of your own answers: your own inner knowing. Tap into that.

Loving you,
arminda

004: Storytime “Ish”

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Storytime: “Ish”

The All Arminda Virtual Show, episode 4

Join Arminda for story-time as she reads one of her favorite books to listeners called Ish by author, Peter H. Reynolds.

. . . letting go of what’s “supposed” to be and showing up in our own ish way can be liberating and exciting. What would that look like for you?

Loving you,
arminda

003: What You Forgot to Remember

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What You Forgot to Remember

The All Arminda Virtual Show, episode 2

Childhood dreams and visions of ourselves in our grownup bodies are significant.

Pull that out of your memory bank and take action about that dream you forgot to remember. This doesn’t mean drastically changing your life.

What brings you joy and peace and happiness? Bring that back into your world.

This is the episode in which I talk about my brother Peter as an artist.

I reference The Not So Serious Life with Jason Goldberg and Steve Chandler. If you do nothing else for yourself today, watch their show.

Loving you,
arminda

002: Star Light, Star Bright

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Star Light, Star Bright

The All Arminda Virtual Show, episode 2

If all you “have” to do is make a wish for something to happen, then you’re probably missing out on some massive opportunities.

Wishing and hoping are just passive thinking.

Stop the wishing, and start the creating and get into action in your own lives.

Loving you,
arminda

001: Creative Idleness

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Creative Idleness

The All Arminda Virtual Show, episode 1

Welcome to the All Arminda Virtual Show, first episode EVER!

During this episode, Arminda shares a passage from Brenda Ueland’s notable book, If You Want to Write, in which Brenda Ueland and Leo Tolstoy have a few things to say about how drinking, smoking, coffee and drugs dull creativity!

Listen to hear what Leo Tolstoy had to say about his own use of alcohol and cigarettes in his writing process and how that changed over time for him in his own evolution as an author.

What does any of this have to do with you and YOUR creativity? Maybe a lot.

loving you,
arminda

Managing Up

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Managing Up

You’re given a project and assigned a deadline for its completion. You’re really excited about the assignment and already have a clear vision of the steps you’re going to take to its execution. However, you also experience an immediate sense of overwhelm because in order to really do it the right way, this assignment will take you days longer than you’ve been given.

Many of us experience fear and high stress around these (or similar) situations.

We are fearful of saying anything to our boss because they might think:

  • I’m incompetent
  • I lack initiative
  • I can’t handle the work load in this position

And we experience high volumes of stress in an effort to hide all of the above fears and push ourselves beyond our own capacity to deliver the quality we want to give and the quality expected of us.

Oftentimes, this results in poor quality output and/or other projects not being managed effectively.

What do you do?

Manage up.

This is a perfect opportunity to have a conversation with your supervisor to renegotiate the assignment and to take full ownership of its outcome and in so doing, you also drop the fear and the stress.

The objective of this conversation is not to come from a defensive, angry or frightened position. When you communicate your genuine interest in delivering exactly what’s been tasked, you can suggest you have two choices:

1. On-time delivery OR
2. Quality delivery

Which is preferred?

From that place of honest and sincere desire to serve, you can engage, connect, and create solutions that involve you in the equation.

It’s easy to slip into an internal dialogue that suggests you’re always on the losing side of projects, assignments and workload. And when that voice in your head gets louder, the more unhappy you become with your work environment.

Shift the balance and quiet the voice by speaking up and speaking out. Chances are, whoever’s handing out assignments isn’t doing so with intent to stress or incite fear in you. They want you to succeed, and you communicating the best way for you to achieve success is information they will welcome.

The alternative is to say nothing at all, continue being fearful of upper management, allow stress to wreak its havoc on you and harbor resentment about how unfair your job is.

Your call.

*Note that this method of renegotiation is just as applicable and effective in our personal relationships as it is in our professional ones.

Be sure and watch this video for some additional insight on the topic!

Course Corrections

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When you’ve set your goal and you think you’re on target to achieve it and something disrupts you along your path — what do you do? Many of us get upset, frustrated and angry at ourselves, we question our ability to get anything done the “right” way and oftentimes use the disruption as the sign for us to quit altogether.

Before you do any of those things, watch this video.

Headlights 101

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Headlights 101

My daughter recently got her own car and just before sending her off on her inaugural drive, we quickly ran through the obvious how-to checklist:

  • windshield wipers
  • defrost front AND back windows
  • headlights

Several weeks and many nights later, she mentioned to me that the headlights were so dim she couldn’t see the road without using her bright lights. She was scared to drive in the dark until the lights were fixed.

Together one night we sat in her car and she turned on the ignition, turned to me and gesturing through the front windshield said, “See?!”

“I see you haven’t turned on the headlights yet,” I replied.

“They’re on right now!” she insisted.

“Turn the dial again and see what happens,” I suggested.

Sure enough, with one additional turn of the dial the headlights flared and she exclaimed, “But those are the bright lights!”

“No, those are your regular lights. The high beams require a little extra effort to activate,” I laughed, thinking about her sneaking around with only her parking lights for guidance while there were other cars on the road, and as soon as she was alone, she would turn on her regular lights.

How many of us metaphorically drive around with our dim parking lights, unsure of how to turn on our regular lights or nervous to use our light in front of others?

You don’t have to drastically change your life, quit what you’re doing, leave your relationship, start your own business or relocate your family. You don’t even need to dust off your list of long-ago abandoned resolutions.

Just turn up your light where you are right now and see if things appear brighter because you are now shining one dial brighter than before.

Voting Rights

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What does it mean to cast a vote for yourself? Watch this video to find out and to determine whether you’ll vote for you!

Arminda references Jason Goldberg of meometry.com and highly encourages you to check out the amazing work he’s doing.

Also mentioned are stickers and Arminda previously recorded an Ask Arminda episode all about sticker charts!

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