Serving or Pleasing?

The All Arminda Virtual Show, episode 7

What would be the most useful way for you to show up in your relationships?

If your answer is about making the other person happy, you’re only going to be unhappy.

The only person who can make YOU happy, is YOU.

Happiness comes from the inside out and we can manufacture that from within and success follows. Every single time.

Are you out to get or out to give?

Is there a belief that needs to be dissolved in the way you’re showing up in your own life?

Loving you,
arminda

005: If You Really Wanted To, You Would

November 19, 2015 By Arminda

If You Really Wanted To, You Would

The All Arminda Virtual Show, episode 5

Arminda bought a magnet that says: IF YOU REALLY WANTED TO YOU WOULD

It’s never about not knowing how to do something, or needing to think about it, or saying you want to talk about it with someone else.

This is an action-filled episode with a BONUS dramatic pause included!

Don’t get caught up in the “herd mentality” of behavior.

You have all of your own answers: your own inner knowing. Tap into that.

Loving you,
arminda

For many of us, saying no is a really hard thing. In fact, it can be crippling when we feel obligated to volunteer, to bake the bread, to take on another client, to resolve someone else’s issue, to take lead on the project, and the list goes on and on and on.

What if you say, “No,” instead?

From My Heart To Yours

February 16, 2015 By Arminda

In all of my relationships (whether personal, professional or casual) when I come from love it empowers, ignites, and shows me I need never fear the outcome because love reminds me my only purpose is to serve.

When I serve I no longer fear rejection, disapproval, failure, miscommunication, unmotivated employees, missed deadlines, lack of resources, lost sales, unhappy customers, and the list goes on and on.

How might your world be different if you always ask:

How can I serve the person in front of me right now?
What problem can I solve for them?
What difference can I make?

Constantly seeking to please creates a culture of mistrust and disingenuous friendliness. But only every time.

Stop trying to please everyone. Whether or not someone likes you for your decisions, your ethics, your products or the way you tie your shoes is not your story.

Your success and organizational growth won’t come because you’ve won someone over or networked your way into a contract. Your employees, customers, vendors, peers, family members, and friends love and respect you because you serve them.

That’s it.

What is different because you showed up today?

007: Serving or Pleasing?